Dating

When you hear the word dating, what is the first thing you think of?  Life partner, window shopping, fun and games? This is an interesting, broad and also controversial subject in a sense. In fact most emotionally related problems that affect young people, like depression, rejection, and low self-esteem come in relation with dating.

We all want to be loved and given attention, and these desires snare us to get into relationships, but some people get so caught up with the need to be loved that it blind folds them to see clearly when dating. Then some people face heart aches after heart aches and this has chiseled them to become experts in guarding their hearts from yet another heart break. Although there is a tendency of over mastering this art to the point that they become manipulators to the other partner in the relationship in order to protect their interests.

At times the person we like, is not the one who likes us back, but we may later discover that, after giving them a chance that this person is the one we never want to let go. And the opposite is true, the person you thought you liked, you may later realise it was just infatuation. So many dynamics with dating right! Hence the need to get to know someone first  before you get into a relationship with them.

Some theories on dating suggest that it is a time where you get know the other person and see if you are compatible or not and if you are not, you move along. The theory suggests that one can have more than one date at the same time since no physical emotions are involved and it should normally not take a long time to decide on compatibility. Again this is debatable too for some, because of societal and cultural perceptions thus it is believed that one should be committed to only one partner whilst dating just as in marriage and if you entertain another partner whilst dating someone else it is as good as cheating and might even cloud your judgement by comparing the two.

What does God have to say about finding a partner in the Bible? Let’s look at (Isaiah 34:16) “Seek ye out of the book of the LORD, and read: no one of these shall fail, none shall want her mate: for my mouth it hath commanded, and his spirit it hath gathered them.” Amen.

The Lord who created Adam and Eve, the first couple says in His word in Isaiah 34:16 that, all will have their mate and His Spirit will bring them together. But for this to happen, one has to be totally surrendered to God, and His Spirit so that it brings them together with the right mate. God designed us differently and He knows how we function, and what we need to function well. So with that knowledge He then uses it to connect you with the perfect partner if you are willing to let His Spirit link and lead you, for He says, He has commanded that all shall have a mate not one will lack, which means there is a perfect match out there for you and the Lord will  connect you with them as  long as you let Him.

As I mentioned this is a long broad topic and can be discussed about from different angles, but we will probably get into that some other day. Today's article is just a brush on the surface, on what dating is according to different thoughts but we will definitely go deeper next time. I also open up to the readers to type their questions and contributions about their view on dating in the comments section below and I will tackle them and present on this blog