Lets start today's article with the order in title, lets talk about sex first. Sex is one of the most controversial topics in the world. It's a shame to be associated with, people are shy to talk about it in public, however "enjoyed" in secrecy. How contradictory it is? Why is it loved, but yet a shame, disgrace but still enjoyed?
One of the worst sins in the bible is sexual sin, 1 Corinthians 6 v 18 reads "Shun immorality and all sexual looseness [flee from impurity in thought, word, or deed]. Any other sin which a man commits is one outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body." This is considered a bad sin because it affects the body which God lives in.
Well here God is not saying a married man and married woman in the boundary of marriage can not have sex. Yes! they can, it was created for them to enjoy and reproduce. But the sin part enters when sex is abused outside marriage, like adultery, having an affair or unmarrieds indulging in sex. That is what God labels as sin.
Now how can we help the ones caught up in this sin? Can condemnation or finger pointing save them, as we daily remind them of their sin, or actually come to a point where we relate with them, and get to find out what leads them to do that.
Some people fall into this sin because of peer pressure, they are pressured in a relationship to show their commitment through that act until they actually become addicts and they need strong guidance from someone elderly who might have been through the same challenge, to bring them back.
Some fall into the sex sin because no one has ever told them it is wrong. Their belief of love is sex, so it's hard for them to show their love without any sexual activity involved.
Love is sex to many and when they talk about dating, if no sex is involved it is simple friendship. It's a mentality that has corrupted our generation, and even young people still in school engage into sex because they associate it with love.
But that is not true, real loves comes from the heart and does not need to be demonstrated through sex. That kind of love is lust disguised as love and it does not last long. We need the church and elders to teach the young generation what real love is and also to teach us that marriage does not constitute of sex alone. Is that the reason to get married?
What is real love and how can one experience it without lusting.
Lack of knowledge and proper guidance leads to people indulging in sexual sin.
Same applies with drugs and alcohol abuse. I will treat them as one for the purpose of this article. To some it starts off as simple fun simply to have an experience, but then it later turns to becoming a monster which appears to be friendly until it eventually destroys them. Drug and substance abuse is common everywhere and even in the church. Some people want a relationship with God for protection at the same time they want to enjoy that weird experience they get from drugs and alcohol. They do this until they are trapped forever and eventually drop all morals.
For one to overcome sexual sin, drugs and alcohol abuse, the first stage is to change your influences. These are friends, places you hang out or go to that encourage this immoral behavior. Also change what you listen to. It is not an easy decision but start from there by moving away from certain daily influences. You also need a renewal of the mind to understand the real source of happiness Romans 12 vs 2 reads "Don’t be conformed to the patterns of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your minds so that you can figure out what God’s will is—what is good and pleasing and mature.".
One needs to renew their mind from thinking happiness comes from sex, drug and substance abuse. Happiness comes from God and when you get to know Him and understand His ways, you will discover real happiness that cannot be replaced by sex, drugs and alcohol. They just bring a temporary feeling that lasts when intoxicated, after that one goes back to life's reality and depression kicks in, but God can take away that depression and give you peace Philippians 4 vs 7.
Lets us surrender totally to God, and
Jude 24 reads "To the one who is able to protect you from falling,
and to present you blameless and rejoicing before his glorious presence,". Amen! Cry out to Him using this verse and He will keep you from falling, even if you stumble keep crying out He will pick you up.
